Finding Your Voice: Aromatherapy and Rituals for Authentic Self-Expression

Do you ever feel like you mute yourself or don't speak what you actually feel or think? Not because you have nothing to say or don't have an opinion, but because somewhere deep inside, you've learned that speaking our truth isn't safe. We bite our tongue on corporate calls, edit ourselves in conversations, and hesitate to share what we really feel. We also carry tension, anxiety, and self-criticism in the body that constricts our breath and prevents us from speaking. It doesn't happen randomly but all those symptoms come from patterns rooted in our childhood experiences and inherited through generations.

As Carl Jung said, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” Your voice is much more than a sound you make. It's the physical expression of your unique personality and uncensored self-expression of who you truly are.

The ability to speak with clarity and authenticity comes from the calm body and nervous system, and an open heart. It is so important to recognize when you hold yourself back, rewrite old patterns, dissolve fear, and create new pathways in the mind, heart, and body that allow us to express ourselves the way we truly are.

Aromatherapy is a powerful tool that works with your body, your conscious and unconscious mind.

Aromatherapy is more than a pleasant scent. It's a powerful tool that works with your body and your conscious and unconscious mind. It helps your voice to finally come through clearly, confidently, and uncensored.

Expression starts in the body - in your chest and with your breath. Emotional stress, anxiety, and constant muscle tension leads to shallow breathing, creating mental fog and restricting oxygen flow to your brain and tissues. Essential oils open the chest by releasing muscle tension, calm the nervous system, and clarify thoughts allowing you to speak more confidently.

However finding your authentic voice goes beyond working with the breath or calming the mind in the present moment — it also means addressing the past. The patterns that make us hold back or mute ourselves often live deep in the unconscious, shaped by early childhood experiences and reinforced over the years. As children we are taught to stay quiet and invisible not to disturb our tired stressed parents, to never to argue or speak against the grown ups. Some of these patterns are inherited and come from our ancestors. For example, a grandmother who lived through the war might have learned to stay quiet and invisible in order to survive. These inherited survival responses live in our bodies for generations, manifesting as hesitation, throat tightness, or a fear of rejection when we attempt to speak our truth.

Aromatherapy, with its ability to directly influence the limbic system - our brain's center for memory and emotion - is a potent tool in addressing deep-seated behavior patterns. By bypassing the rational mind, essential oils gently unravel old fear patterns, creating space for a new, more authentic response.

Essential oils in Self-Love formula work with your body and mind to help remove what blocks your voce.

Essential oils are so multifaceted in the way they influence our physical body, emotions and mental state. Let's take a look how different plants included in Self Love aroma can help us find our true voice and express ourselves beyond the fear of rejection.

The essential oil of Rose nurtures the heart and brings in self-compassion. Emotionally, it encourages the release of suppressed emotions, particularly the early experiences of rejection or neglect. By gently opening the chest and the heart center, rose can help access buried emotional patterns, creating space for forgiveness, self-acceptance, and allow ourselves to be unique beings. Studies have shown that the aromatic molecules of rose reduces cortisol levels and induces feelings of calm, supporting emotional well-being and emotional processing.

The essential oil of Geranium is known for its balancing effect on mood swings, the female endocrine system, and the nervous system. It helps quiet anxiety and habitual mental loops, creating a state where old fears (often unconsciously learned from family or cultural conditioning) can surface safely. By stabilizing the emotional field, Geranium allows you to identify and shift patterns that mute your authentic voice.

Marjoram's calming effect on muscles and the nervous system releases tension stored in the body, allowing fuller unrestricted breathing. Physical relaxation encourages emotional and psychic flexibility, helping the nervous system "unlearn" the patterns of self-silencing.

Our homegrown and artisanally distilled Lavender Grosso is known for its relaxing and clarifying properties that soothe both body and mind. The essential oil reduces mental chatter and hyper-vigilance, which are linked to protective unconscious patterns. By quieting these thought loops, lavender brings awareness of deep-seated beliefs and the release of outdated emotional responses.

Our Lavender Grosso grows on sandy soils of Arroyo Grande on the Central Coast of California. Every July we handpick and distilled our plants in small batches.

Bergamot is uplifting and emotionally liberating. It helps dissolve self-doubt, fear of judgment, and negative thought patterns that are often unconsciously internalized from childhood or social conditioning. Inhaling bergamot activates areas of the limbic system related to reward and emotional regulation, promoting adaptive responses over imprinted self-limiting behaviors.

Lemongrass detoxifies and stimulates mental clarity, cutting through mental fog and supporting mental focus and decisiveness.

Frankincense has been used since ancient times for its deeply grounding and meditative benefits. It supports mindfulness and introspection, connecting conscious awareness with deeper layers of the psyche. In doing so, it allows recognition and soft release of inherited or childhood patterns that hold us back constraining voice and self-expression. Traditionally associated with the Sun and outward, expansive energy, frankincense has been used in sacred rituals since Biblical times, offering clarity and spiritual elevation.

Essential oil of Myrrh resonates with our ancestral awareness and lineage, providing a sense of continuity and support from one's roots. It encourages integration of inherited patterns rather than resisting them, allowing conscious choice in response to unconscious influences. Complementing frankincense like the yin and yang, Myrrh is associated with the Moon and embodies receptive, inward energy. It was used historically for anointing and reflection, inviting quiet strength, introspection, and connection to ancestral wisdom.

Across cultures and time, fire serves as a messenger between humans and the divine.

Rituals to Awaken Your Authentic Voice

Exploring Your Voice

Apply the Self Love roll-on to your pulse points—wrists, behind the ears, and along the throat. Close your eyes, inhale deeply, and let your shoulders soften. Choose a simple melody or note that calls to you. Begin to hum, allowing the sound to vibrate through your chest, throat, and head. Explore the full spectrum of your tonality—experiment with the lowest and highest notes you can reach. Notice where each pitch resonates in your body and allow your breath to guide the sound. There is no right or wrong way to do it as this is your personal exploration. As you hum, feel the tension soften and notice how with time your tonal range increares and confidence grows. In shamanism there is practice of creating your own Power Song that you can hum or sing daily as commitment to yourself or to gather strength and confidence before an event that makes you nervous, such as a public speaking, job interview or a date.

Reflection Of Love

Mist your space lightly with the Self-Love aromatherapy spray. Stand in front of the mirror, take a deep breath in, put your hand over the heart, look directly into your eyes and say "I love you". If your first attempts feel forced, awkward, or unsure, repeat them. Keep saying until the words flow naturally and you genuinely think and feel their meaning. Seeking love and expression of love from others we underestimate the need of our own self approval, acceptance and unconditional love.

Intention Setting Candle Ritual

Light the Love candle and, inhale deeply and as you exhale, speak out your intention, prayer or words that reflect your truth, your desires, or your commitments.

Throughout cultures and time, fire served as a messenger between humans and the divine: when you give your words or intentions into the flame, it carries them upward. The fire purifies, transforms, renews, illuminates, and invites communion with the divine. But it is your thoughts and words that are delivered for manifestation.

Stay Gentle, Patient, And Curious With Yourself

Your voice is one of your most powerful tools of creation and manifestation — every word you speak or not speak carries shapes your reality. Essential oils inside the Self-Love blend support your body, mind, and the practices that help you connect with your authentic voice, whether through breathwork, meditation, movement, or stillness.

Essential oils are complex, living allies. They enhance yoga, chanting, writing, or any practices that help you connect with your authentic voice, whether through breathwork, meditation, movement, or stillness.

The Self Love roll-on, aromatherapy mist, and therapeutic candle accompany your inner work as you explore, experiment, discover and nurture your authentic voice.